Archive for February, 2010
Peter Finch asked:
Probably you are flooded with offers for everything: from cheap stock options to spring outlet sales. And somewhere between the tons of ads you notice a loving face offering matchmaking services.
Ukraine marriage agencies are growing in number in response to the huge demand and interest of western men. The ex-soviet republic became independent some 16 years ago but it is still under heavy economic crisis. This forces many people to search for better life abroad. And what is better if this life comes with a marriage?
At the same time life in the west is getting more stressed. Men do not have time for long dates and often are stuck in their workplaces where every search for a suitable wife ends in disaster. It is a fact that western women today are after their career rather than a family. According to the latest statistics the birthrate is going down and the age when women give birth for the first time is going up to 35.
Here comes the Ukraine marriage agency which has found its specific niche and is working on to develop it. For a certain amount of money the matchmakers are promising access to thousands of Ukrainian women profiles. They assure that everyone is happy with this and that every marriage arranged by them is more than successful and long lasting.
This is true but only if you are realistic and have frank opinion of the marriage. International marriages might turn into a nightmare because people from different cultures have different values. If your American wife supports you and has nothing against your frequent overtime hours in the office steeped in paper work, the Ukrainians are more family oriented and it is hard for them to find an excuse why you prefer to spend more time in the office than with the family.
In addition they are ready to follow you to your native country but there they face the challenges of the new environment and often fall in a deep emotional crisis. They have left all their friends and relatives behind and if the husband is not close to his wife at this time, the adaptation process may fail and the marriage will not be successful.
All these difficult moments are usually forgotten by your Ukraine marriage agency. They will consult you only up to the moment when they can take money for their services. They will offer you more and more profiles for whose contacts you should pay. Later they will flood you with offers for presents with which you can impress your future bride.
They can even organize an individual bride tour for you during which you will be encouraged to meet as many ladies as possible. At the end of the day, when Mendelssohn is just a bare echo, this agency will disappear and will not help you deal with the challenge of your marriage.
All the gossips and promises that Ukrainian women are devoted, caring and loving are true; as well as it is true that they are probably some of the best mothers in this world. They are ready to drop everything and to look after their children until they grow up and take their own life in their hands. There are no doubts about this.
But what is more important for you is to think well and learn from your marriage agency, not only contacts but also advice. If you learn to understand the other culture, you will be the happiest “Ukrainian” husband.
Probably you are flooded with offers for everything: from cheap stock options to spring outlet sales. And somewhere between the tons of ads you notice a loving face offering matchmaking services.
Ukraine marriage agencies are growing in number in response to the huge demand and interest of western men. The ex-soviet republic became independent some 16 years ago but it is still under heavy economic crisis. This forces many people to search for better life abroad. And what is better if this life comes with a marriage?
At the same time life in the west is getting more stressed. Men do not have time for long dates and often are stuck in their workplaces where every search for a suitable wife ends in disaster. It is a fact that western women today are after their career rather than a family. According to the latest statistics the birthrate is going down and the age when women give birth for the first time is going up to 35.
Here comes the Ukraine marriage agency which has found its specific niche and is working on to develop it. For a certain amount of money the matchmakers are promising access to thousands of Ukrainian women profiles. They assure that everyone is happy with this and that every marriage arranged by them is more than successful and long lasting.
This is true but only if you are realistic and have frank opinion of the marriage. International marriages might turn into a nightmare because people from different cultures have different values. If your American wife supports you and has nothing against your frequent overtime hours in the office steeped in paper work, the Ukrainians are more family oriented and it is hard for them to find an excuse why you prefer to spend more time in the office than with the family.
In addition they are ready to follow you to your native country but there they face the challenges of the new environment and often fall in a deep emotional crisis. They have left all their friends and relatives behind and if the husband is not close to his wife at this time, the adaptation process may fail and the marriage will not be successful.
All these difficult moments are usually forgotten by your Ukraine marriage agency. They will consult you only up to the moment when they can take money for their services. They will offer you more and more profiles for whose contacts you should pay. Later they will flood you with offers for presents with which you can impress your future bride.
They can even organize an individual bride tour for you during which you will be encouraged to meet as many ladies as possible. At the end of the day, when Mendelssohn is just a bare echo, this agency will disappear and will not help you deal with the challenge of your marriage.
All the gossips and promises that Ukrainian women are devoted, caring and loving are true; as well as it is true that they are probably some of the best mothers in this world. They are ready to drop everything and to look after their children until they grow up and take their own life in their hands. There are no doubts about this.
But what is more important for you is to think well and learn from your marriage agency, not only contacts but also advice. If you learn to understand the other culture, you will be the happiest “Ukrainian” husband.
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Michelle asked:
A great deal has been written and said in recent years about the shift away from traditional arranged marriage, particularly here in the UK. Yet the debate rages on -should Asians hold fast to the old ways, or embrace a new and different approach?
The new generation of Asians today have not only adapted to the lifestyles of their new adopted country and its culture but have also maintained the Asian cultures and traditions, and this is clearly evident in the marriages that takes place or search for a life partner.
Whilst there are few arranged marriages within the Asian community nowadays, the extended families have always been involved in the search for a life partner for their children, where the children are now given the choice even to search for their partner, to meet and get to know each other before they involve their respective families and tie the knot.
We now have a second and third generation of Asians who rejoice in a balance of cultural understanding that covers both East and West with equal ease. And they demand a greater degree of freedom of action yet also respecting the wishes of their elders and family traditions.
However, the problem is growing -there are so many who remain unmarried after the age of say 30 years, is in itself a major change in marriage patterns among Asians. Most of these people are now in good positions and stable employment looking for partners, yet have found it very difficult to get married.
The trend is quite clear these days – most girls looking a graduate, find stable employments and be independent is in itself a major cultural change but at the same time clock ticks by and you are already 30+ and still single. The days of marrying at such a young age at 20 or even 23 are now gone. The true Asians who have respected the decency demanded by their culture and tradition or religion have resorted to semi-arranged marriages, else how are they supposed to find partners of their choice? “They are taking the initiative themselves,” obviously guided by their parents says Bharat Raithatha, the business editor of Matchmaker International Ltd.. Matchmaker Magazine now solely for all backgrounds within the Asian community.
Mr. Raithatha continued: “Through agencies like our own, they have found a confidential and respectable means of gaining introductions to like-minded prospective partners of an appropriate religious and ethnic background. The Matchmaker International Ltd.. Matchmaker Magazine is a forum for those wishing to advertise their listings and communicate freely through a Box number system in a confidential way and many have found the love of their dreams through this route as well.
Another cultural change is a new wave of speed dating events bursting through UK where you can now have up to 30 dates in one night in a nightclub with a quick three minute chat with each prospective partner and a new Asian generation ready to take on this new challenge.
The Internet is another major cultural change where it is now fashionable to register on so many sites and seek the partner of your dreams using the technology.
As Mr. Raithatha said: “Our new Internet site at www.perfect-partner.com lets interested parties communicate to each other freely via emails by sending their own personal messages and persue listings in the privacy of their own homes via the Personal Internal Messaging System (P.I.M.S) which is also capable of sending ematch alerts to your email address. Prospective partners can now make initial contact by e-mail and gather relevant information before committing to an initial meeting.”
You will get people who are serious. The response so far has been excellent with the site capturing all backgrounds from all over the world and the number of visitors reaching to over 4,50,000 per month. Asians looking for partners now commnuicate interactively, with so many who have become just good friends from being complete strangers.
Media such as these are certainly fuelling the change in Asian marriage tradition. A glance at the personal details in one issue of the magazine indicates an up-market and well-educated group of individuals seeking partners for life and marriage. Interestingly, the swing is not yet complete – the magazine and the Internet site both carry details in a confidential manner placed by parents hoping to arrange marriages for their children!
For more information please contact Bharat Raithatha (ACMA B.A. Hons), Business Editor at M.I.L MATCHMAKER MAGAZINE on 020 88681879 or by email bharat@perfect-partner.com or visit www.perfect-partner.com.
A great deal has been written and said in recent years about the shift away from traditional arranged marriage, particularly here in the UK. Yet the debate rages on -should Asians hold fast to the old ways, or embrace a new and different approach?
The new generation of Asians today have not only adapted to the lifestyles of their new adopted country and its culture but have also maintained the Asian cultures and traditions, and this is clearly evident in the marriages that takes place or search for a life partner.
Whilst there are few arranged marriages within the Asian community nowadays, the extended families have always been involved in the search for a life partner for their children, where the children are now given the choice even to search for their partner, to meet and get to know each other before they involve their respective families and tie the knot.
We now have a second and third generation of Asians who rejoice in a balance of cultural understanding that covers both East and West with equal ease. And they demand a greater degree of freedom of action yet also respecting the wishes of their elders and family traditions.
However, the problem is growing -there are so many who remain unmarried after the age of say 30 years, is in itself a major change in marriage patterns among Asians. Most of these people are now in good positions and stable employment looking for partners, yet have found it very difficult to get married.
The trend is quite clear these days – most girls looking a graduate, find stable employments and be independent is in itself a major cultural change but at the same time clock ticks by and you are already 30+ and still single. The days of marrying at such a young age at 20 or even 23 are now gone. The true Asians who have respected the decency demanded by their culture and tradition or religion have resorted to semi-arranged marriages, else how are they supposed to find partners of their choice? “They are taking the initiative themselves,” obviously guided by their parents says Bharat Raithatha, the business editor of Matchmaker International Ltd.. Matchmaker Magazine now solely for all backgrounds within the Asian community.
Mr. Raithatha continued: “Through agencies like our own, they have found a confidential and respectable means of gaining introductions to like-minded prospective partners of an appropriate religious and ethnic background. The Matchmaker International Ltd.. Matchmaker Magazine is a forum for those wishing to advertise their listings and communicate freely through a Box number system in a confidential way and many have found the love of their dreams through this route as well.
Another cultural change is a new wave of speed dating events bursting through UK where you can now have up to 30 dates in one night in a nightclub with a quick three minute chat with each prospective partner and a new Asian generation ready to take on this new challenge.
The Internet is another major cultural change where it is now fashionable to register on so many sites and seek the partner of your dreams using the technology.
As Mr. Raithatha said: “Our new Internet site at www.perfect-partner.com lets interested parties communicate to each other freely via emails by sending their own personal messages and persue listings in the privacy of their own homes via the Personal Internal Messaging System (P.I.M.S) which is also capable of sending ematch alerts to your email address. Prospective partners can now make initial contact by e-mail and gather relevant information before committing to an initial meeting.”
You will get people who are serious. The response so far has been excellent with the site capturing all backgrounds from all over the world and the number of visitors reaching to over 4,50,000 per month. Asians looking for partners now commnuicate interactively, with so many who have become just good friends from being complete strangers.
Media such as these are certainly fuelling the change in Asian marriage tradition. A glance at the personal details in one issue of the magazine indicates an up-market and well-educated group of individuals seeking partners for life and marriage. Interestingly, the swing is not yet complete – the magazine and the Internet site both carry details in a confidential manner placed by parents hoping to arrange marriages for their children!
For more information please contact Bharat Raithatha (ACMA B.A. Hons), Business Editor at M.I.L MATCHMAKER MAGAZINE on 020 88681879 or by email bharat@perfect-partner.com or visit www.perfect-partner.com.
