Bob Miles asked:


This article is the second of two articles on different types of mail order brides. In Part One I discussed the Queen of Diamonds and the Green Card Mama; now we take a look at two of the better kinds.

3. The Traditional Wife

This type makes a stable spouse and a great mother. She is usually from a conservative background, often rural or working class. She is not usually highly educated. A Traditional Wife has dreamed of marriage and children as long as she can remember. She will gladly clean, cook, raise your children, and “do her wifely duty”. Many men find this type to be satisfactory, even ideal.

A word of warning to the romantically inclined – may find this type to be less than ideal, to put it mildly. Although a Traditional Wife places great emphasis on the institution of marriage, it is the role of wife and mother along with its social status that she wants, not romantic love. Indeed, many Traditional Wives want to get married “to have kids”. Period. After a while you may end up wondering if she would be happy if you moved alone to Fiji and mailed her a sperm sample and a paycheck each month.

4. The Hopeless Romantic

This one is the all-time favorite, the woman that everybody seems to be looking for. Take her to see “The Titanic”; she’ll cry. If you want a wife who is ruled by her heart, this is the type for you.

The Hopeless Romantic type comes in two sub-varieties: the Angel; and the Infatuation Junkie. Infatuation Junkies are usually very young. What you are likely to get is a sexy, passionate ball of fire, but be careful – such marriages tend to be exciting but unstable. If you can get through the tumult of the marriage’s early years, however, she might just mature into a wife who values romantic love yet is able to tell the difference between real love and raging harmones – an Angel, in other words. If that happens, thank your lucky stars because you are luckier than most.

Bob Miles asked:


Not all mail order brides are the same. If you’ve looked into it then you have probably run into success stories and nightmares. Women differ both individually and according to their culture – Vietnamese women are as different from Mexican women as Mexican are different from Romanians.

What sets Indonesian women apart is that in Indonesia the status of women is particularly low compared to Western countries. This provides a lot of their motivation to get out of Indonesia (not to mention Indonesia’s relative poverty!). Although in general Indonesian women seeking to emigrate are sensitive to being treated as an inferior, by the same token they greatly appreciate being treated with respect.

Indonesian women are trained in the fine art of conversation, and they can converse on many different subjects. Are you tired of women whose preferred topic of conversation always seems to be The Relationship? What’s more, culture encourages a wife to be unselfish and devoted. Finally, Indonesian women tend to take care of themselves – that means their personal hygiene is excellent, and of course some of them are very beautiful as well.

Take the time to get to know her before you marry. With email this has become easier than ever before, and doesn’t require constant travel back and forth to Indonesia. Yeah, she wants a to start a new life in your country, but does she want you? Make sure she does before you marry her, because if you don’t then this uncertainty will haunt you no matter how she really feels about you. This author has known men who have married mail order brides, and every single one was terribly insecure, afraid that his wife would dump him or cheat on him. Yet in every case I was personally convinced that his wife would never do such a thing. If you think she’s going to cheat on you the even if she doesn’t, your insecurity alone will cause almost as many problems in your marriage as if she really did.